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Mad Scientess ([personal profile] nanila) wrote2019-07-21 10:01 pm

RIP

Peacock butterfly

My Auntie Lina passed away today. I have a little story to tell about it. I promise it’s funny.

I found out, curiously, very soon after it happened. I was walking through the dining room and I picked up a hammerhead shark cuddly toy that Keiki adores. Its tail is all bedraggled from chewing, and it has a plaster on its fin over a split seam, to keep the stuffing in. As I looked at it, I remember that Keiki and Humuhumu’s cousins had given them the toy on our trip to California in 2016.

I took a couple of photos of the shark to show off its tattered, well-loved condition, and I popped them into a message to my cousin, and said I hoped it would cheer her up given the circumstances. Auntie had two severe strokes about six weeks ago and was in and out of hospital. My cousin, being a nurse, had spent a lot of time with her, helping to negotiate her recovery programme, and eventually, her palliative care (although I didn’t know the latter when I sent the message since I hadn’t spoken to her for a couple of weeks).

A few minutes later, my phone binged, and I read, “She just passed, cuz.”

I spoke to my parents after they woke up in the morning, their time. My dad told me that Auntie had been snoring away in her room after they’d removed all the treatment apparatus, surrounded by twenty or so relatives, eating and talking and spending their last few hours with her. In the midst of this, the funeral director showed up.

Suddenly, my auntie woke up. She grabbed my cousin’s arm and said, “Who’s that over there?”

Remaining calm, my cousin replied, “It’s the funeral director, ma.”

Auntie said, “Who’s he talking to? Is it D [one of her other children]?”

“Yes.”

“Is he getting a discount? Tell him he should be getting a discount.”

“I will, ma.”

Auntie dropped back into a doze. The funeral director left.

Auntie woke up and snapped out, “Did he get a discount?”

“Yes, ma.”

“Good.”

And she closed her eyes for the last time.

So my auntie passed away surrounded by the people she loved, doing one of the things she loved most to do herself: haggling for a good deal.

On what I am sure is another completely coincidental note, our garden was absolutely bursting with newly hatched butterflies today. Six red admirals, three commas, and a peacock unfurled their wings and sat on our hedges, warming themselves in the humid air. And that is why this entry has a photo of a butterfly at the top.
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[personal profile] kaberett 2019-07-21 09:30 pm (UTC)(link)
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[personal profile] worlds_of_smoke 2019-07-21 09:33 pm (UTC)(link)
I'm sorry for your loss. But Auntie Lina sounds like she had a great sense of humor. :)
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[personal profile] lurkingcat 2019-07-21 09:50 pm (UTC)(link)


I'm sorry for your loss.
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[personal profile] alexseanchai 2019-07-21 09:56 pm (UTC)(link)
May her memory be a blessing
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[personal profile] brainwane 2019-07-21 10:58 pm (UTC)(link)
What a fun story. And my condolences.
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[personal profile] corvidology 2019-07-22 01:51 am (UTC)(link)
I'm sorry for your loss. ♥
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[personal profile] ironed_orchid 2019-07-22 03:30 am (UTC)(link)
That is a good story and I'm so glad she was surrounded by family members.

Condolences to you and your family.
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[personal profile] trascendenza 2019-07-22 04:15 am (UTC)(link)
So my auntie passed away surrounded by the people she loved, doing one of the things she loved most to do herself: haggling for a good deal.
Oh, my heart! What a lovely auntie <333
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[personal profile] silveradept 2019-07-22 04:57 am (UTC)(link)
Our condolences on your loss, but yes, that sounds like a funny and entirely appropriate story for your Auntie.

I only learned about the iron fist paternal grandmother ruled with after her passing, and I consider that somewhat of a loss.
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[personal profile] pbristow 2019-07-22 05:15 am (UTC)(link)
[HUGS U MIGHTILY]

Thankyou, thankyou, thankyou. And your butterflies.

Edited 2019-07-22 05:15 (UTC)
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[personal profile] st_aurafina 2019-07-22 06:10 am (UTC)(link)
So my auntie passed away surrounded by the people she loved, doing one of the things she loved most to do herself: haggling for a good deal.

I love it - I would hope to go this way too, when it's time. <3
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[personal profile] gwendraith 2019-07-22 09:41 am (UTC)(link)
My condolences and what a wonderful lady with real character. I'm glad she had many of her family with her at the end. x
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[personal profile] cmcmck 2019-07-22 11:26 am (UTC)(link)
I like your aunt :o)

That's real character!

Would we could all take our leave that way.
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[personal profile] tree_and_leaf 2019-07-22 11:31 am (UTC)(link)
May she rest in peace - I'm sorry for your loss.
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[personal profile] emelbe 2019-07-22 12:53 pm (UTC)(link)
Lovely story. <3
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[personal profile] ayebydan 2019-07-22 01:58 pm (UTC)(link)
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[personal profile] redsixwing 2019-07-22 02:54 pm (UTC)(link)
What an excellent story! I'm thinking of you and your family today.
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[personal profile] sfred 2019-07-22 03:28 pm (UTC)(link)
What a great story.
I'm sorry for your loss.
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[personal profile] kotturinn 2019-07-22 04:42 pm (UTC)(link)
Thank you for that wonderful little portrait. RIP to a characterful woman.
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[personal profile] white_hart 2019-07-22 06:49 pm (UTC)(link)
I'm sorry for your loss.
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[personal profile] wohali 2019-07-22 07:32 pm (UTC)(link)
That's a lovely story, the sort that helps us to know her who never met or interacted with her. All the better that it's so characteristic of who she was.

Thank you for sharing.
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[personal profile] azurelunatic 2019-07-22 09:52 pm (UTC)(link)
That is a beautiful story. One last deal.
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[personal profile] liseuse 2019-07-23 04:25 pm (UTC)(link)
I am so sorry for your loss <3
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[personal profile] lorigami 2019-07-23 08:13 pm (UTC)(link)
oh wow, that is amazing <3
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[personal profile] lenores_raven 2019-07-24 01:52 pm (UTC)(link)
Thank you for sharing the story. I'm sorry for your loss.
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[personal profile] weaverbird 2019-07-24 11:41 pm (UTC)(link)
My condolences. {{{hugs}}} Your auntie sounds like she was a real character.
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[personal profile] ljravengirl 2019-08-03 12:31 am (UTC)(link)
I love that story! Your Auntie sounds like a fun person. I'm sorry for your loss, L. *mwa*
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[personal profile] forthwritten 2019-08-03 01:47 pm (UTC)(link)
My condolences. For what it's worth, it sounds like one of the better deaths one can have.
Edited 2019-08-03 13:47 (UTC)